Us: Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship

That says it all. This book for is a huge eye opener on individualism versus connection, Me versus We and how our conditioning, mindset, upbringing and societal norms push and pull us into an "individualistic pattern". Even though I'd consider myself very, much part of a couple, relationship, friendships and family, I see and do this through a very individualistic lens - which is holding me back from the true and real connection I crave and am constantly trying to find. "It's one thing to 'know' we are part of a living whole , it's another to really truly feel it". This book is about understanding the wiley ways of our adaptive child and how stepping into our wise adult self, is what it is to be "We", to belong not just fit in, to be radically honest not brutally honest. The benefits of individualism and independence slowly felt like the biggest urban myth..... Some books just make the penny drop. Us did it for me... And there's is so much in the book about understanding your partner, friend, person, but understanding yourself first is the priority.

A wise and warm book, far reaching beyond basic relationship advice. It is transformative in many areas of life (your own, humanity, nature). A quietly beautiful book which will touch you to the core.

Useful advice not too Americanised

A terrific aid to help to clarify what is going on in a relationship. His advice is clear and his case studies easy to relate to. He calls a spade a spade. Excellent, highly recommend it.

The book covers a wide range of personal (the I thinking model) approach to relationships and outlines convincingly the ‘we’ model and it’s much more inclusive healthy benefits.

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I found this book excellent. It is easy to read

I learned a lot from this book. The most important aspect was what my childhood and my parenting style came from my experiences growing up. I am working towards being a more complete human and this book matched my spiritual with intellectual learning.

Terry Real's book 'Us' is for people aiming to start a fulfilling relationship and people who are in committed relationship.The author takes a close look at patriarchy and its effect on 'us' and how we relate to each other.He also looks at the impact of our family-of-origin and its 'stories' on how we 'do' relationship.The book is easy to read, is a good and engaging read, and radiates with compassion and empathy.Years of precious experience, both as a husband and couples' therapist have gone into its pages, which makes each chapter feel authentic and relatable.I have listened to the audiobook twice, and then read the book, taking notes.Friends have told me that it has been a life-saver for their relationship.I couldn't recommend 'Us' enough!

Helps through the most challenging issues. Concepts and also concrete examples. Innovative action oriented approach

He has nailed it! Connecting the current obsession with individualism to problems in relationships is the scourge of our zeitgeist. Well written, easy to read. A must read for anyone in a relationship and struggling to create an "us".

I appreciated hs approach to thinking about marriage as a team endeavour that can yield more than an individual win.