How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage Paperback – July 11, 2017

I so needed this study. A friend on staff at our church recommended this to my husband for us to go through together when he mentioned he and I were struggling in our relationship. I lost my mother tragically in a house fire almost a year ago. My siblings, who do not know the Lord, have gone off the deep end and are showing their worst sides since her death. It has opened my husband’s eyes up to the struggles we had growing up as kids in a home with abuse and neglect from both parents.This book, the workbooks and online content, are a godsend in this perfect moment for me to go through this with my husband.I would recommend this for any person, single or married, because it is useful as you consider any relationships you have in life and how you love others and allow yourself to be loved. The authors walk you through some raw and painful contemplative questions to help you sift through the truth of your childhood, the good the bad and especially the ugly, and offer practical ways to move into a healthier mind and heart space. Our childhoods affect the way we relate to others and how we see ourselves in this world. It doesn’t matter if you grew up in a lovely home with doting parents or were abused as a child, this book offers a great perspective and challenge to become who God meant you to be so that you can live life fully.

I’m 58 years old and I never knew all of what this book has shown me in such a short time. I am currently on my second marriage and as we started to go down the same path, I stopped to take a look at my life and try to figure out what was causing my unhappiness once again. My daughters from my first marriage recommended this book to me. I am not a reader. I don’t usually read books. But I can’t put this book down now. My wife and I take turns reading this book before we goto bed. It has shown us both that we both have issues to resolve. And this book has helped me extremely. I was battling depression and didn’t want another divorce, I only saw death as an end to the pain. But now I am better after only reading 2 chapters. We are continuing the book and I can’t wait to keep reading. Remember this is from a person who didn’t like to read. So that should say a lot.

Excellent book! My wife and I read this together and learned so much about ourselves and each other. Highly recommend!

This is probably in third place for me in the most essential books with lessons couples need to learn,Others include Emotionally Bulletproof, Boundaries, Real Love, and either Men are From Mars or No More Mr Nice GuyGive it a read.

This book is more about recognizing hurtful/destructive patterns, whereas the Five Love Languages is more about here is how to speak to your loved one's need for love. I liked how the authors used plenty of examples to explain their premise, but it needs more examples of what the desired behavior(s)/action(s) should be. I found it more like these are this type of behavior and fit in this box, but not enough of and here is how to change or move from that type of behavior to one that is positive. If you are looking at this or the Five love Languages book, get that one, this is at best more of a diagnosis book of problematic thinking/behaviors and how/why you are doing them and to recognize that these behaviors will sabotage the "love" in your relationship. They do have some helpful material referenced from their site and the Comfort Circle and "holding time" activities are brilliantly explained and great tools to add to improve and maintain your relationship. I'd like to see more on healthy love styles and behaviors and examples to assist parents and those that want more help ensuring they are fostering a healthy "love" environment and lifestyle. Thanks

A must have regardless if your married or single.

Highly recommend for couples. Do the tests!

Do yourself and a marriage a favor and by this book and take the free online assessment. My wife and I have been married for over 35 years and have done perhaps a half dozen marriage seminars, counseling, and read numerous books and studies this book was the most insightful, practical, and impactful in our relationship. This will help you understand yourself better and how to begin to respond versus react to issues that you may not understand why they stir such strong emotions.