The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents (Hazelden Meditation Series)

One of my great mentors recommended The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie and I chose to purchase both versions ( this one and the one with the yellow backing). There's motivation and encouragement with each day's wisdom. It seems to be right on track with my life each day. It helps me to be considerate of others and I like slowing down and enjoying life or "smelling the flowers"/"taking the scenic route" and getting to know others. I now am able to understand the world around me better and have more compassion and respect for the next person. Reading these books along with another one recommended to me by an amazing therapist of mine, Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab, have improved my mind and attitude in a gracious way. When people ask how I've changed I recommend them all.

I really love this book. It's a daily reader with wonderful, focused topics for each day and a nice meditation prayer at the end. It's been helpful to read each day and have the words rolling around in my head guiding me through the day. I'm a big fan of daily readers and this one is no exception.

I love the way Melody Beattie approaches the healing & recovery process, especially in regards to utilizing the 12 steps of Codependents Anonymous. It's important not to further traumatize, blame & shame victims of narcissistic abuse & domestic violence, and the other 12 step systems do just that. It's also incredibly important for survivors and recovering codependents to know that there are other ways of recovery & healing and that we have the freedom to choose our own higher power, healing journey, and spiritual path. When we've been abused emotionally, physically, psychologically, financially, and spiritually, many of us lost our sense of self, and now we're working on finding our authentic self and regaining our right to autonomy. Being told that there's only one way to heal can be a turn-off and pushes people away. I like how Melody gives recommendations and guides the reader to explore themselves when they're ready. I could go on, but I have a CoDA meeting to facilitate shortly, and I need to prepare.

I used one of the readings in this book and one of the readings in its sequel, "More Language of Letting Go," as the topics in a recent 12-step meeting I was called on to lead. I was a little bit fearful about using these books, as this was not a meeting of the 12-step program that might be most naturally associated with Ms. Beattie and her writings (although a close cousin). The second person to speak up after I opened the meeting for sharing confirmed my belief that these books were "spot-on," and so I have chosen that as the title of my review. (You know who you are, should you ever read these words, and I thank you once again.) I first discovered this book just over two years ago when I experienced the first temporary break-up with my partner, a break-up that would happen several more times over the succeedings months and only recently happened in such a way that I intend to be permanent. At the time of the first break-up, I turned to this book for reassurance that I was not a bad person for wanting out. Now, two years later (and having discovered the sequel in the meantime), the affirmations I'm finding in it are much deeper and much more positive affirmations. Of course, it's obvious from the title of the book that these little readings, usually about a page or so in length, are directed most specifically towards those who have decided that "letting go" is an appropriate response to a particular person, place or thing in his or her life. And it's amazing how often Ms. Beattie says things that I have personally experienced, although often without sufficient insight at the time to realize that I was experiencing them. It's as though she has the ability to put my feelings into words. For me, the hardest thing to do when reading this book is to restrict myself to the reading for that particular day. I have finally given up. When I feel the need to, I just read on or skip to a different section of the book. I am always encouraged by what the author has to say. I gave "The Language of Letting Go" five stars because that is the maximum I am allowed. If it were up to me, I'd give it a hundred. This book and its sequel are the best of the many meditation books I have been through. Most enthusiastically recommended.

I am an emergency room clinician 27 years and find this book a great way to relax , regroup and improve my self care. Melody Beatty’a The Language of Letting Go is a daily staple for many years ! I strongly endorse it!! -Stella :)

I love the book . It was recommended by a support group I attend. It helps me to understand the very complex issues of being a mother of an addicted son and the art (yes) of letting go. It is a difficult road for any parent to have a child addicted to drugs . It's confusing and isolating to say the least . This book has helped me understand the meaning of "I'm not alone". Prior to reading this book ( and others) I believed my behaviors were mine only . Done out of not knowing what else to do . I am gaining insight that most parents of addicted children do pretty much the same thing and it isn't a flaw in character by being codependent to a child that u love with all ur heart. It shows you how to let go of destructive enabling and the fear of letting go .It also has helped me understand patterns of my childhood and how that has effected both of us and how I can't help save or live his life . It also helped me with the thoughts that instead of helping I have been helping my son stay sick. I am a work in progress in this recovery but I am grateful for the insight this book has provided I hope and pray my son recovers me too . With the help of this book I am hopeful when he does make that choose I can be there to accept him with all my heart and not with conditions .

Aussi simple que cela. À la manière de la littérature Al-Anon ou d'autres programmes en 12 étapes, ce livre propose chaque jour une réflexion sur la codépendance, le processus de recouvrance, les programmes eux-mêmes, la vie, l'univers et le reste... Cela permet d'appréhender la richesse des propos une idée à la fois, "aujourd'hui seulement", comme le préconise la si précieuse devise. Un livre qui conviendra aux codépendants, mais qui pourra aussi permettre à leurs proches de mieux cerner les mécanismes de cette addiction à la définition encore assez floue et aux expressions multiples. Plus généralement, à mon avis, toute personne éprouvant des difficultés à "lâcher prise" pourra bénéficier grandement des idées et suggestions présentes dans ce livre. Une chose est sûre, Melody Beattie sait de quoi elle parle.

The technique followed by the author to anthologise this book is eminent. Go for it.

Per ogni giorno dell'anno un testo per riflettere. Concetti profondi. Da assaporare ogni giorno.

Gedanken zu jedem Tag im Jahr. Seltsam wie oft der Text genau das Thema trifft, das mich gerade beschäftigt .. nicht immer natürlich ;-)

Wonderful book. Been reading most days for 3 years now. You can take away something from each passage and start your day with great intentions.