Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness Paperback – January 1, 1981

Now I have your attention I cannot tell you the dramatic difference this little book did for me and my marriage. One day my wife comes up to me and says out of the blue "Im not happy I want to seperate, please pack a bag and get out" I was blown away I did not see this coming at all!This book will NOT underline NOT save your marriage... You will. This is going to take a bit of maturity on your part and also willingness for you to change your behaviors. Let me tell you what I was doing so you dont think I am just some guy who was only slightly jealous.The more I tried to smother her and deny her basic freedoms the more she pushed away from me. The more she pushed away the harder I tried and the more jealous I became. I did things that were so unbelievable I still cant believe I did them. I used to set up a video camera to watch the house while I was at work so I could see who was coming over to sleep with her. I would find excuses to leave work early so I could suprise her and see who she was sleeping with. Nothing ever proved anything. But in my jealous mind any thing I found like a sock on the floor, proved her infidelity. This meant that I would accuse her of sleeping with people, I was nervous of every man in her life because they obvously wanted to sleep with her and I knew it. I wanted to know where she went and for how long so that I could then question her later and see if her stories were the same if she said one thing wrong I used that to accuse her of visiting other guys. I read her emails to see who she was writing and what they were saying about me. Basically I was a mess. When I began to realize this I slowly started to see what I had done wrong and it all was like a light going off. I had not seen what I was doing. I was like a dog that is chained up and is pulling to get a bone, the more I pulled the tighter the coller was getting and the more it choked me.I would also suggest a marriage counselor for you and your spouse or partner. Yes this book will help for people that have domestic partners and boyfriend/girlfriends. If you see any hope in the relationship at all dont give up. You can do it! Dont become another statistic.

My 19 year old son came to me complaining of his jealous behavior towards his girl friend so I bought several books for him which I read too. This one was a real winner and we both found it understandable and well explained and easy to relate to. The examples are plausable and the person trying to understand and change his jealous behavior can appreciate what the victim of jealousy feels like. My son easily grasped that his feelings had more to do with his insecurities than with his girl friend's behaviors. Only time will tell how he can truly integrate these lessons, but I was very encouraged talking to him about this book and how well he liked it.We also bought "Overcoming Jealousy " by Wendy Dryden. It was immersed in psychological mumbo-jumbo "ABCDEFG" steps which were unnecessary and confusing to the real meat of the book, which was for me helpful. It could have been better done in my opinion, and we will see if my son can get past the first chapter and a half to the real stuff. Good luck to other folks dealing with this toxic emotional habit.

This is a small and inexpensive book with a very direct approach to dealing with jealousy and possessiveness. The author appears to almost hate jealous people at first, but he warms up later with the idea that a person doesn't have to stay that way and in fact can often overcome and not ever have trouble with this awful feeling again. If you are a jealous person, be prepared to take a very hard look at yourself, but also expect to find great insight into how you can heal your mind and save your relationship.

She was my girlfriend at the time and we nearly broke up over her jealousy. She had many issues, but the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back was when she asked me to unfriend all my female facebook friends. I initially refused, but conceded only when she agreed to read this book with me as a compromise. I bought two copies so we could read it together. For the first time, we were able to have reasonable and productive conversations about jealousy, possessiveness, our insecurities, fears, etc. We never had another single jealous episode afterwards. We were able to put that behind us and were later engaged. And, I was able to refriend all those girls with her blessing because she was no longer afraid of them coming between us.

I bought this book as one of several, on the same topic. I understand that there are different view points in providing therapy and different writing styles as well. As a person who has a problem with unhealthy jealousy, I wanted to make sure I had different view points and perspectives on the problem.This book was not the most helpful that I purchased. This book is small, and easy to read. It is written in a conversational style and does raise several thought-provoking points for the person who suffers from jealousy and possesiveness. Also, it provides helpful hints and tips for the unjealous partner in a relationship with jealousy problems.That being said, what this book does not really provide is any sort of self-help framework for the person suffering from jealousy to begin working on their problem.If you think you or a partner has a problem with jealousy, this is not a bad book to introduce you to the subject. If you accept that you are prone to unhealthy jealousy, this book will not really help you overcome that problem and begin thinking or behaving in healthier ways.

Used this book over 10yrs ago. Recently let a teen borrow it; they found it really helpful!

This book did nothing but yell at you. I do NOT recommend it. No helpful tips at all. Just a lot of "You're a horrible person doing horrible things."

To the point. Spot on. It's like reading about me. You make the changes. Book offers acceptance. You must change. Advice: Avoid triggers. You must avoid triggers. Only way to progress.

Étant jaloux, j'ai cru bon d'acheter des livres sur ce thème pour m'aider.J'en ai acheter deux dont celui ci, or l'auteur n'éprouve aucune compassion pour vous, il en arrive même à vous insulter !!Passez votre chemin. L'autre que j'ai acheter est beaucoup plus compréhensive et donne de véritables conseils.

Buen libro de autoayuda. Claro está que te da buenos consejos, lo difícil ya es ponerlos en práctica pero el libro es útil y fácil de leer

Really insightful, helpful and interesting read. Gave me lots to think about. Worth a read for any relationship, not just where jealousy is involved. Excellent seller too. Very fast delivery.

Rare to find such a good book on such a complex topic.I read this book Twice. Thanks to Dr Hauck. One of the best books I think that explains such a complex emotion in simple terms & also explains how to overcome them. Recommended Read for those suffering from Jealousy & Possessiveness. Thanks.

Amazon wants me to write a review needs to be atleast 20 words in lenght, so i just writ something really short. I ordered this over one year ago and didn't even read it. Good.