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# Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

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Review: Interesting and informative book - Very enjoyable and easy to read.
Review: Insightful Writing Easy to Understand - Very Helpful - I picked up a few books on self-defeating behavior and attitudes. This one is by far the most helpful and relevant. While other books can go on and on describing wild self-defeating behaviors, this book nails the core of everyday problems in plain english. I like how clear the writing is, how well it summarizes our pitfalls - "Self-defeating behavior occurs when we fail to learn the lessons that life tries to teach us. It represents the victory of impulse over awareness, immediate gratification over lasting satisfaction, relief over resolution. Self-defeating behavior invariably begins as an attempt to make ourselves feel better. It is a coping mechanism. " There, the author encapsulates exactly what I've been going through and from which I try to break free. I love that the first chapter of the book is "Chasing After Love and Approval From a Parent". So many of our frustrations and regretful impulses stem from a longing for approval and love at home and the misunderstanding thereof. The author is a practicing psychiatrist, not just a researcher. His generalization seems grounded in years of observation and clinical experience. When he says "almost everyone I see in therapy has conflicts with a mother or a father, and these invariably affect their relationships with spouses, offsprings, colleagues and friends", it made me look inside myself in a new way. I'm very excited over the findings he's presented in the book. For example, I'd never relate procrastination to loneliness. I like how plain and clear the writing is, how easy it is to understand. I can relate to the sentiments described in the book well. It's very sympathetic. "Actually, unless you are the rare son or daughter who articulates your needs clearly, your parents probably don't even have a clue as to what you want from them. All they know is that you're displeased - and that bewilders and saddens them." I feel like talking to an old friend who knows exactly how I feel. It made me develop a sense of forgiveness and love towards others that didn't seem possible before. Best of all, the book presents simple rules to follow and actions to take to improve our behaviors and attitudes. It's a small book, 177 pages - every chapter is straight to the point.

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #25,895 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #83 in Self-Esteem (Books) #286 in Personal Transformation Self-Help #289 in Success Self-Help |
| Customer Reviews | 4.5 out of 5 stars 3,136 Reviews |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Interesting and informative book
*by S***. on December 23, 2025*

Very enjoyable and easy to read.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Insightful Writing Easy to Understand - Very Helpful
*by H***I on September 30, 2021*

I picked up a few books on self-defeating behavior and attitudes. This one is by far the most helpful and relevant. While other books can go on and on describing wild self-defeating behaviors, this book nails the core of everyday problems in plain english. I like how clear the writing is, how well it summarizes our pitfalls - "Self-defeating behavior occurs when we fail to learn the lessons that life tries to teach us. It represents the victory of impulse over awareness, immediate gratification over lasting satisfaction, relief over resolution. Self-defeating behavior invariably begins as an attempt to make ourselves feel better. It is a coping mechanism. " There, the author encapsulates exactly what I've been going through and from which I try to break free. I love that the first chapter of the book is "Chasing After Love and Approval From a Parent". So many of our frustrations and regretful impulses stem from a longing for approval and love at home and the misunderstanding thereof. The author is a practicing psychiatrist, not just a researcher. His generalization seems grounded in years of observation and clinical experience. When he says "almost everyone I see in therapy has conflicts with a mother or a father, and these invariably affect their relationships with spouses, offsprings, colleagues and friends", it made me look inside myself in a new way. I'm very excited over the findings he's presented in the book. For example, I'd never relate procrastination to loneliness. I like how plain and clear the writing is, how easy it is to understand. I can relate to the sentiments described in the book well. It's very sympathetic. "Actually, unless you are the rare son or daughter who articulates your needs clearly, your parents probably don't even have a clue as to what you want from them. All they know is that you're displeased - and that bewilders and saddens them." I feel like talking to an old friend who knows exactly how I feel. It made me develop a sense of forgiveness and love towards others that didn't seem possible before. Best of all, the book presents simple rules to follow and actions to take to improve our behaviors and attitudes. It's a small book, 177 pages - every chapter is straight to the point.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Hand this book out for Christmas!
*by T***N on May 19, 2011*

Can I just say this book is awesome!!! There is no way you cannot go through all 40 of these subject matters and not find anything that reflects you and something you need to work on! Sometimes in life there are some things you just do not understand and this book is the type of wisdom I wish an elder would have sat me down with. Each passage is short and packed with objective wisdom. I said I would read one chapter a day but I just got hungry for more knowledge and went through the book in 2 days. The best part is that you can skip around; the information does not build. One lesson that stuck out to me was playing the game and that struck a nerve, because all my life I have never been as saavy as I would like to be about work and dating politics. I am quick to wimp out, get scared, play the victim, and say oh that's not fair. But that passage really stuck with me and showed me how I over personalize things and made me realize I have more power than I know! This book is totally good stuff for anyone at any stage in their life! I know it has helped to enhance mine.

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