Keep Calm and Cut Him Off: 13 Reasons to "Go Silent" on Guys Who Reject or Break Up with You

An awesome read! Very easy to understand. Great book for mental health professionals, people who know women who are struggling to let go of a relationship and of course, for any woman struggling to let go of someone who had hurt or rejected them. It details how the principle of total abstinence and silence is of core import to help women to be free to move on with their lives!

This book offers clarity and compassion and insight and it’s something we all need to read to keep us sane.

Perfect for break up

A pep talk for women who wait around for some guy who breadcrumbs them (at best), this book is straightforward and easy to read. It might even be a catalyst for some to give up on giving it all away and take the reins of their lives in their hands to steer it toward something real.The author needs to do some spell checking and/or semantics work (when to use "rein" vs. "reign", for example). I found the errors distracting, a reason for 4 stars.

My story is simple. After several breakups and getting back together my ex boyfriend and I finally decided we were not getting married. I left Florida and went home for good! Needless to say even after I got engaged to my husband, my ex boyfriend's mom kept calling me telling me how handsome her son was. It seemed like a game she was playing with me since she didn't like me. So I called my ex boyfriend and asked him to tell his mother not to call me anymore. He then wanted to know if we were going to still talk and I told him no, that I was getting married and moving on.Of course I cried my eyes out after that conversation because it was so final and difficult to say goodbye forever to a man you thought you were once going to marry. Not everything ends happily-ever-after!!! But that conversation and me saying no was one of the first of many steps I took to get to my emotional freedom.If you are in love with a guy you wanted to marry, it can take years to get over him when he doesn't feel the same way. This book suggests you start the process sooner than later to allow for more time to find the man you are really supposed to be with. Why let a man with low commitment waste your precious youth and childbearing years???Bruce Bryans knows the psychology of why men treat women badly. He's a man who is on your side! He knows what the alternative are if you stay in contact with a man who has rejected you in some way.I will however say that sometimes a romantic relationship does turn more into a friendship even in a marriage. There are people who still value each other after the chemical high of the "in love" feeling or experience has dissipated. But that is probably a different situation than the type of relationship this book is talking about.I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist so please consult a professional if you have any questions or concerns. Ending a relationship even with someone treating you badly can be very difficult and you may need more support. All I know is that the advice did work for me at one point in my life and I wish I'd read a book like this much sooner! If you stay or go, you are probably going to suffer a while. It is just what happens. Best to get the situation behind you and move on. This book will give you strength to do the right thing.To healing and psychological growth,~The Rebecca Review

I read this book and completely changed course with my ex-boyfriend. We both thought that we were best friends and wanted to keep the friendship, in spite of his wanting to get to know another woman. I did go to dinner with him once, but when he mostly showed how excited he was about this new relationship, I came across this book and realized that I was making a huge mistake to stay friends with someone who had dumped me. I felt very addicted to him, and cutting off all contact seemed very difficult. But the minute that I did it, I realized that I had just withdrawn cold-turkey from my drug of choice. I felt calm, clear and self-respecting. That feeling has only increased as the days go by. This book gave such good advice and was the inspiration that led me to this most important decision. I am already starting to see ways that my boyfriend had flaws that I am also glad to be away from. Nothing is more important than self-dignity and self-respect. This book shows why ending all contact might be your best path to that.

I read this book a week after he told me he needed space after I noticed a change in energy. Lots of great advice and it definitely gave me clarity. I haven't had much experience dating since I've been in two long term relationships. Dating again I got sucked into the 3 month trap and got my emotions involved. No contact will be a life changer and help me discern for future vetting processes. Thank you Bruce truly. I look forward to buying all of your books.

Straight and to the point type of book. I believe his views are important to apply to specific situations. Good read.

Obviously I bought this since I was already going no contact. Since that is a difficult choice, this book was a very welcome support. Recommended!

I read this book during going no contact with someone. It really helped my get my ducks in a row and get out of the mental traps that fuel toxic relationships. I highly recommend it for women who are in abusive dynamics

I found this a very inspiring, very emboldening book, full of all the common sense that others closer to me have tried to tell me in the past. Having completely ignored it, remained in denial, a terminal man- pleaser-chaser- attention seeker and done everything the book says not to do for the last 30 years, I can confirm that I am a 51 year old spinster who has spent more of her life as a play thing than a play mate and watched men go from red hot, through luke warm to cold as I move from desirable diva, through disappointed casual lover to desperately chasing mad woman. This time, thanks to this book which chimes with all my previous experiences, I have woken up and smelled the coffee and will be following the advice. I'll be back in touch with the results ( of doing and saying absolutely nothing) in a few months time. Watch this space!.....

This book is straight forward and to the point. It does not sugar coat any information when it tells you to cut off your old crush or ex completely. I would highly recommend this book to women experiencing recent rejection or breakups. The book is tiny, is lightweight and is also good for reading for when you are busy on the go.

I rarely leave reviews even if I really like a product but I had to for this book. It is clear, compassionate and presents a very good reason as to why silence and moving on is the most self respecting thing a woman can do when it comes to non committed relationships.I’ve done it last year and it has proved to be one , if not the best decision I made last year. I wish I had this book at the time to help the decision more easier for me but I’m glad I still read it now. I’ll be reading all of Bruce’s other books.Thank you!!!