The Explosive Child [Sixth Edition]: A New Approach to Understanding and Parenting Children
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THE CLASSIC PARENTING GUIDE -- MORE THAN ONE MILLION COPIES SOLD A revised and updated 6th edition of the groundbreaking, research-based guide to understanding and parenting challenging children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper, from a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the field. What’s an explosive child? A child who responds to routine problems with extreme frustration—crying, screaming, swearing, kicking, hitting, biting, spitting, destroying property, and worse. A child whose frequent, severe outbursts leave his or her parents feeling frustrated, scared, worried, and desperate for help. Most of these parents have tried everything for effective child behavior management—reasoning, explaining, punishing, sticker charts, therapy, medication—but to no avail. They can’t figure out why their child acts the way he or she does; they wonder why the strategies that work for other kids don’t work for theirs; and they don’t know what to do instead. Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren’t attention-seeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren’t passive, permissive pushovers. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach to parenting. Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Dr. Greene provides a new conceptual framework for understanding their difficulties, based on research in the neurosciences. He explains why traditional parenting and treatment often don’t work with these children, and he describes what to do instead. Instead of relying on rewarding and punishing, Dr. Greene’s Collaborative & Proactive Solutions model provides a form of non-punitive discipline that promotes working with explosive children to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, and teaching these kids the skills they lack. This compassionate and practical guide provides a new path forward for families. Inside, you’ll discover how to: Identify Lagging Skills: Learn why explosive kids lack crucial skills in flexibility, frustration tolerance, and problem-solving, and how this understanding changes everything about your approach. Solve Problems Collaboratively: Master the parent-proven process of working with your child to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, instead of just managing the behavior. Implement Evidence-Based Parenting Strategies: Apply Dr. Greene's research-backed model to nurture your child's development and reduce conflict, without resorting to punishments that don’t work. Transform Family Dynamics: Move from a state of constant crisis to one of connection and mutual understanding, helping your child feel heard and restoring peace to your household.
| Dimensions | 5.31 x 0.61 x 8 inches |
| Edition | Updated |
| Isbn 10 | 0063092468 |
| Isbn 13 | 978-0063092464 |
| Item Weight | 2.31 pounds |
| Language | English |
| Print Length | 272 pages |
| Publication Date | August 17, 2021 |
| Publisher | Harper Paperbacks |
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please, if your child has "explosions" or "acts up" out of normal kid READ THIS NOW
I had this same book years ago for a different child - helped a lot - AND this updated version is so much better! the child in question is an absolute love, but when the kid acts up it is awful! This book will help you understand why, and give you a clear path to changing things - also consider watching the TED talk by Dr. Stuart Ablon who discussed this method in a 15 minute YouTube video. This will change everything for you if you do as Dr. Greene will teach you.
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Don't be distracted by the title.
The title seems a bit jarring but ultimately this book is about learning to recognize patterns of disruption for your child, and learning ways to proactively avoid stressful situations when you can...and tools for discussions when you cant. Highly recommend!
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Game Changer
This book was enthusiastically recommended to me (along with Motivational Interviewing) when I was struggling with a teenage foster son. It has been a game changer with my elementary schooler, who is generally well-behaved but sometimes oppositional.The book teaches a simple recipe for working WITH a child to troubleshoot issues, called Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS). The focus is working with children who are oppositional, reactive, or stubborn to brainstorm and implement solutions that will satisfy both the child and the adult. Over time, CPS can help the child meet expectations, improve the overall climate of the relationship, and help the child develop better executive function. It's simple enough that even I can remember the steps, haha.I would make one observation: TBRI is a prerequisite for CPS; they complement each other. When a child is empowered through feeling safe and calm and having basic needs met, and is primed to learn through playful connection, then the door is wide open for CPS. And CPS will reinforce TBRI; it’s a corrective approach that will also further empower and connect the child. A great way to learn TBRI is to read The Connected Child or to watch the Karyn Purvis Institute videos. Watch the teen TBRI videos if that's your age group.
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Good not great
Not what I thought it would be but it had some good points. We have a child with severe Autism and I feel as though not everything would be fitting to the diagnosis situation. It’s worth the read I believe if you have a child struggling with behavioral issues/authority. Perhaps a head strong toddler?
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Good
Didn't apply to my child so I gifted it to help someone else.
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May cause children to explode spontainiously
After reading this book my child no longer explodes, but the cleanup was awful.
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learning how to relate to an explosive child
I cannot say enough good about this book. We adopted 2 boys, both having FASD, one presenting very explosive behaviors. Most times we wouldn’t know what provoked him. He was in therapy with a Dr for 7 years (he’s 10 now). We finally pulled him out of the useless therapy. Public schools gave up on him. (Actually a good thing). He was admitted to a therapeutic day school. The entire staff are therapists, and trained in behavior therapy. AMAZING. But after reading this book and implementing plan B, the improvement we saw at home has been amazing. We are now seeing behavioral issues way less often. I highly recommend everyone, parents and foster parents to read this book. It brings everything into perspective. Your family will be so stress free, just by not walking on eggshells constantly
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⭐⭐⭐ — A Starting Point, But Not the Whole Answer
The framework is interesting. The follow-through left me wanting more.I picked up The Explosive Child after hitting a wall with my kid — the meltdowns, the defiance, the exhaustion of feeling like nothing was working. Ross Greene’s Collaborative Problem Solving approach genuinely reframed how I think about why my child behaves the way he does, and for that alone, the book has value. The core idea — that kids do well if they can, not that they’re choosing to be difficult — was worth sitting with.That said, once I got past the philosophy, I kept waiting for the book to shift into more concrete, actionable territory. It never quite did, at least not in the way I needed. A lot of the guidance felt circular, and the case study examples, while illustrative, started to feel repetitive rather than instructive.If you’re brand new to the ADHD/ODD space, this is a reasonable first read — it’ll expand your perspective. But if you’re already deep in the trenches and came here looking for a real playbook, you may close it feeling like you got a solid why with a pretty thin how.Good book. Not a great book. A 3-star read that I’m glad I didn’t skip, but one I’ve already started supplementing with other resources.
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Good book
Good book to understand the child's problem
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Great reading
Great reading
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Bien explicado
He hecho el plan b de emergencia, mi hijo tiene 4 y en realidad el no intervino tanto en el plan pero me dió más paciencia y encontrar la raíz del problema en el paso de empatía. Pienso que este libro es útil, seguro lo involucraré más conforme crezca.
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Recomendo a todos
Chegou em excelentes condições e ajudou-me imenso a perceber e lidar com o meu filho de quatro anos, que é muito explosivo. As dicas do autor deram-me ferramentas para gerir melhor as frustrações do meu filho e acho que se aplicam a qualquer idade. Recomendo
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Lesenswert
Ein sehr kurzweilig geschriebenes und konkretes Buch mit klarem Statement. Es langweilt auch nicht mit dem üblichen verhaltenstherapeutischen Geblubber, sondern verfolgt einen Ansatz, der sich absolut heilsam anfühlt. Ich bin ehrlich dankbar für dieses Buch.
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