The Road to Character

Writing an adequate review for best-selling author David Brook’s “The Road to Character” has been challenging. I typically work with five pages of detailed notes when reviewing a book but found myself with twenty-one pages for this review.Brooks has written a gem of a book, one that raises the bar for future discussions of “character”. It takes time to absorb and savor. Brooks says publicly that he wrote this book to save his own soul.“The Road to Character” is about the cultural shift from the “little me” to the “BIG ME,” from a culture that encourages people to think humbly of themselves to a culture that encourages people to see themselves as the center of the universe. This cultural shift encourages us to think about having a great career but leaves nothing for us to develop an inner life and character. For Brooks, we have lost our way to “being good” and “doing good.”Brooks frames the discussion by contrasting “resume virtues” - those skills that one brings to the job market that contribute to external success – with “eulogy virtues” – those that are at the core of our being like courage, honesty, loyalty, and the quality of our relationships that contribute to real joy. These are embodied in two competing parts, Adam I and Adam II, of our nature that are a constant source of contradiction and tension.Adam I is the external Adam. He wants to build, create, produce and discover things. He is characterized by actively seeking recognition, satisfying his desires, being impervious to the moral stakes involved. He has little regard for humility, sympathy, and honest self-confrontation, which are necessary for building character. He wants to have high status, win victories, and conquer the world.Adam II is the internal Adam. He wants to embody certain moral qualities. He wants to love intimately, to sacrifice self in the service of others, to live in obedience to some transcendent truth, and to have a cohesive inner soul that honors creation in one’s own possibilities. Adam II is charity, love, and redemption.Adam I is at work in today’s “BIG ME” culture. “Big Me” messages are everywhere; you are special; trust yourself; and be true to yourself. This ‘Gospel of Self’ begins with childhood when awards and rewards are given for just being, not doing. “We are all wonderful, follow your passion, don’t accept limits and chart your own course.”This has led to an ethos based on a “ravenous hunger in a small space of self-concern, competition, and a hunger for distinction at any cost,” an ethos where envy has replaced admiration. This self-centeredness leads to several unfortunate directions: selfishness, the use of other people as a means to an end, seeing oneself as superior to everyone else, and living with a capacity to ignore and rationalize one’s imperfections and inflate one’s virtues.The “BIG ME” culture distorts the purpose of our journey and the meaning of life. “Parts of themselves go unexplored and unstructured. They have a vague anxiety that their life has not achieved its ultimate meaning and significance. They live with unconscious boredom, not really loving, and unattached to the moral purpose that gives life it’s worth. They lack the internal criteria to make unshakable commitments. They never develop inner constancy, the integrity that can withstand popular disapproval or a serious blow. They foolishly judge others by their abilities and not by their worth. This external life will eventually fall to pieces.”In this increasingly “BIG ME” culture, Brooks became haunted by the voices of the past and the quality of humility and character they exhibited. People in the past guarded themselves against some of their least attractive tendencies to be prideful, self-congratulatory, and hubristic. “You would not even notice these people. They were reserved. They did not need to prove anything in the world.” They embodied humility, restraint, reticence, temperance, respect, and soft discipline. “They radiated a sort of moral joy. They answered softly when challenged harshly. They were silent when unfairly abused, dignified when others tried to humiliate them, and restrained when others tried to provoke them…But they got things done. They were not thinking about what impressive work they were doing. They were not thinking about themselves at all. They just seemed delighted by the flawed people around them. They made you feel funnier and smarter when you spoke with them. They moved through all social classes with ease. They did not boast. They did not lead lives of conflict-free tranquility but struggled towards maturity. These people built a strong inner character, people who achieved a certain depth. They surrendered to the struggle to deepen their soul.”Brooks highlights the lives of prominent and influential people - Francis Perkins, Dwight Eisenhower, Dorothy Day, George C. Marshall, A. Philip Randolph, Bayard Rustin, George Eliot, St. Augustine, Samuel Johnson, Michel de Montaigne – to articulate the diverse roads taken by a diverse set of people, white and black, male and female, religious and secular, literary and non-literary. Not one of them was even close to perfect. They were acutely aware of their own weaknesses and they waged an internal struggle against their sins to emerge with some measure of self-respect..“The Road to Character” is a “road less traveled.” It involves moments of moral crisis, confrontation, and recovery. To go up, one first has to go down (The “U Curve”); one must descend into the valley of humility to climb to the heights of character. Only then will one have the ability to see their own nature, their everyday self-deceptions, and shatter all Illusions of self-mastery.Humility is central to the journey. Humility leads to wisdom, a moral quality of knowing what you don’t know and finding a way to manage ignorance, uncertainty, and limitation. It offers freedom…freedom from the need to prove your superiority. Alice had to be small to enter Wonderland. “Only the one who descends into the underworld rescues the beloved.”The paradox for Adam I is that he cannot achieve enduring external success unless he builds a solid moral core as sought by Adam II. Without inner integrity, your Watergate, your scandal, your betrayal, will eventually happen. Adam I versus Adam II, Adam I ultimately depends on Adam II.Brooks wrote this book to learn who has traveled this road to character, and what it looks like. He found you cannot be the good person you want to be unless you wage this campaign against self. I highly recommend this book as one of the most profound books published this year.End note: Brook’s sections on love and suffering are excellent.

This is very introspective book, one that the author says he wrote “to save his own soul”. He first discusses what he refers to as our “resume virtues” and our “eulogy virtues”. The resume virtues are the skills that you bring to the job market and that contribute to external success. He describes the eulogy virtues as the ones that are talked about at your funeral, the deeper virtues that exist at the core of your being- whether you are kind, brave, honest or faithful; what kind of relationships you formed. The book seeks to identify and hopefully attain these latter virtues on one’s way to achieving character. He uses another analogy in speaking to these virtues, describing the first as typical of “Adam I”, while the others are labeled as being sought by “Adam II”. I see this distinction as one between the search for recognition from others (Adam I) and the realization that the important recognition comes from within and reflects a moral adherence to some transcendent truth, sacrifice in the service of others, an inner identity that honors the wonders of creations and one’s own possibilities, and the ability to experience intimate love (Adam II). The author feels that to nurture your Adam I career, it makes sense to cultivate your strengths. To nurture your Adam II moral core, it is necessary to confront your weaknesses. The author seemed inspired by listening to a public radio rebroadcast of a show that immediately aired after WWII. It was hosted by well known celebrities who set a tone of self-effacement and humility. The Allies had just completed one of the noblest military victories in human history. And yet there was no chest beating. Nobody was erecting triumphal arches. He noted how this tone of thankfulness and humility, with the absence of bravado, was in such contrast to the self aggrandizing “celebrations” we see regularly at sports events. He wonders at what has produced such change, and whether we have lost the sense of character that was present so many years ago. The author then examines present attitudes, and the contrast with those of the past. He does not suggest a return to the “good old days”, or even characterize such times as such, but just seeks out the changes in, and causes of, the current moral climate. His research suggests that our country has seen a broad shift from a culture of humility to the culture of what he calls the “Big Me”, from a culture that encouraged people to think humbly of themselves to a culture that now encourages people to see themselves as the center of the universe. To support this idea of the “Big Me”, the author notes surveys of the attitudes of young people over the last almost 50 years. In 1966 80 percent of incoming college freshmen said they were strongly motivated to develop a meaningful philosophy of life. Today that figure is less than half. In 1966 42 percent said becoming rich was an important life goal, in 1990 the number was 74 percent. In a 1976 survey that asked people to list their life goals, fame ranked fifteenth out of sixteen. By 2007, 51 percent of young people reported that being famous was one of their top personal goals. And this self centeredness has been accompanied by a certain indulgence from society as a whole, an unwillingness to be critical, but instead focus on supporting self esteem, perhaps at the loss of character. As an example, the author notes that in 1966, only about 19 percent of high school students graduated with an A or A– average. By 2013, 53 percent of students graduated with that average, according to UCLA surveys of incoming college freshmen. These changing attitudes highlight the stark contrast from the culture of humility mentioned above. The author also refers to this as the “crooked timber” school of humanity. People who ascribe to it have an acute awareness of their own flaws and a belief that character is built in the struggle against their own weaknesses. They must wage this campaign through effort and artistry, through the self discipline to adhere to external standards. But character is not built through self discipline alone, but also constructed sweetly through love and pleasure. When you have deep friendships with good people, you copy and then absorb some of their best traits. When you love a person deeply, you want to serve them and earn their regard. When you experience great art, you widen your repertoire of emotions. This journey to character is not a solitary experience. Individual will, reason, compassion, and character are not strong enough to consistently defeat selfishness, pride, greed, and self-deception. Everybody needs redemptive assistance from outside—from family, friends, ancestors, rules, traditions, institutions, exemplars, and, for believers, God. The author also feels, as do many others, that one must endure some suffering, some loss of control, a “falling”, in order to then climb to the heights of character. Such event need not be a sudden epiphany, it can also happen in a daily, gradual way. At some point one must find his or her “calling” or vocation, a devotion to something larger than himself or herself. But how did this change in attitude come about? The author traces it back to philosophical differences in the 18th century, contrasting moral realism with moral romanticism. While moral realists placed emphasis on inner weakness, moral romantics placed emphasis on our inner goodness. The realists believed in cultivation, civilization, and artifice; the romanticists believed in nature, the individual, and sincerity. The author observed that realism reigned supreme in America during the first part of the twentieth century, but then began to wane. One would assume that this cultural change occurred in the 60's and 70's- a time of general dissatisfaction among many of our youth. But Mr. Brooks traces it instead to the prior “Greatest Generation”. These were the people who had endured 16 years of deprivation during the Great Depression and WWII, and were ready to let loose and enjoy life. Consumerism was rampant as people sought to escape the shackles of self-restraint and all those gloomy subjects like sin and depravity. Self help books abounded and it was argued that the primary psychological problem was that people didn’t love themselves enough. The focus shifted from the flawed view of human nature to an emphasis on pride and self esteem. Some philosophers called this “the culture of authenticity,” a mindset based on the romantic idea that each of us has a Golden Figure in the core of our self, an innately good True Self, which can be trusted, consulted, and gotten in touch with. Moral authority is no longer found in some external objective good, but rather in each person’s unique original self. In this ethos, sin is not found in your individual self; it is found in the external structures of society—in racism, inequality, and oppression. To improve yourself, you have to be taught to love yourself, to be true to yourself, not to doubt yourself and struggle against yourself. Although the author acknowledges that this new sense of self-esteem gave women, and other groups, the language to articulate and cultivate self-assertion, strength and identity; it also began an acceptance of the “Big Me” sense of morality. This has been exacerbated by the omnipresence of social media which has made communication faster and busier, has diminished periods of silence and reflection, and encourages what the author calls a “broadcasting personality”. The social media maven spends his or her time creating a self-caricature, a much happier and more photogenic version of real life. People subtly start comparing themselves to other people’s highlight reels, and of course they feel inferior. People seeks false “friends”on Facebook or other social media, and seem to be constantly “selling” themselves to others, either socially or in the workplace. It’s a culture in which people are defined by their external abilities and achievements, in which a cult of busyness develops as everybody frantically tells each other how over committed they are. At least to this reader there seems a certain irony in the fact that this “Big Me” morality, focusing more inward, is caught in an endless and relentless attempt to find approval from others. So the author finds that the ego driven “Adam I” has overshadowed the humble “Adam II”. He then notes that to restore the balance, to rediscover Adam II, to cultivate the eulogy virtues, it is necessary to revive and follow what we accidentally left behind: the counter-tradition of moral realism, or what he has called the “crooked-timber” school. We must build a moral ecology based on the ideas of this school, to follow its answers to the most important questions: Toward what should I orient my life? Who am I and what is my nature? How do I mold my nature to make it gradually better day by day? What virtues are the most important to cultivate and what weaknesses should I fear the most? How can I raise my children with a true sense of who they are and a practical set of ideas about how to travel the long road to character. He suggests a number of guideposts for this journey. We must recognize that we our lives are not just the pursuit of pleasure, but of purpose, righteousness and virtue. Life is essentially a moral drama, not a hedonistic one. We must realize that we are flawed creatures, but still splendidly endowed. We are both weak and strong, bound and free, blind and far seeing and have the capacity to struggle within ourselves, potentially sacrificing worldly success for the sake of an inner victory. In this struggle, humility is our greatest virtue. It is the ability to accurately assess our nature and place in the universe; to be aware of our own weakness, to know that we are not the center of the universe but serve something higher. Pride is the central vice that blinds us from our divided nature, that misleads us into thinking that we are greater than we are. It makes coldheartedness more possible and love less so. We must know that once the necessities of survival are satisfied, the struggle against sin and for virtue should be life’s central drama. And we must realize that the most essential parts of life are matters of individual responsibility and moral choice: whether to be brave or cowardly, honest or deceitful, compassionate or callous, faithful or disloyal. Character is built in the course of this inner struggle by developing dispositions, desires, and habits that are slowly engraved against our own weakness. If one makes disciplined, caring choices, such action slowly engraves certain tendencies in the mind, tendencies that will lead to the desire to continue to do the right thing and make the right choices. The things that lead us astray on this journey are short term—lust, fear, vanity, gluttony. The things we call character endure over the long term—courage, honesty, humility. And this is not a journey that we can successfully travel alone. Everyone needs redemptive assistance from outside- from God, family, friends, ancestors, rules, traditions, institutions, and exemplars. We need some external guidance that can be trusted. We must quiet our own self, muting the sound of our ego so that we can see the world clearly and realize that we are an accepted member of this mystical universe, that, in religious terms, we have received grace. We must cultivate modesty in order to gain wisdom. To be wise we must know that we do not, nor can not understand all of the mysteries we encounter. We must seek out a calling or a vocation that requires us to seek out something greater than ourselves. We must realize that our struggle against weakness and sin may not make us rich or famous, but will render us more mature, joyful and content. And perhaps most importantly, we must know that this is not a struggle that we can win, but one that we must be engaged in. The author might best capsulize the importance of the road to character by his reference to joy: “There’s joy in a life filled with interdependence with others, in a life filled with gratitude, reverence, and admiration. There’s joy in freely chosen obedience to people, ideas, and commitments greater than oneself. There’s joy in that feeling of acceptance, the knowledge that though you don’t deserve their love, others do love you; they have admitted you into their lives. There’s an aesthetic joy we feel in morally good action, which makes all other joys seem paltry and easy to forsake.” Although I think this summary captures the basic message of the book, it by no means covers all its content. Most of the length of the book is devoted to the biographical sketches of historical figures, some very familiar and some less well known, who exhibited great character in their lives. The author uses them as examples of the different paths to character, and the experiences that prompted these individuals to ascribe to something higher than themselves. Dwight Eisenhower and George Marshall found service to their country a life’s calling, and that the honor and discipline of the military offered the best framework in which such service could be fulfilled with character. Frances Perkins was a social activist in the early decades of the 20th century, but her sense of service was galvanized by the horrible tragedy of the Triangle fire in New York. Dorothy Day was so struck by the miracle of the birth of her child that she turned wholeheartedly to work in the Catholic church, immersing herself in service to the disadvantaged. Samuel Johnson, a man plagued by many physical maladies, found his salvation and his calling in his writing. He would not abide any dishonesty and sought to produce accurate and intellectually honest work. A. Philip Randolph, a great civil rights leader, showed his character through a devotion to education, his incorruptibility, and his unflinching sense of dignity. Mary Anne Evans, the 19th century English writer who went by the pen name George Eliot, found her sense of self and her path to character through the total and unconditional love of her husband. These and other of the author’s examples were flawed individuals, but exhibited great character in battling their flaws. They took different “roads to character”- some secular, some religious, some more personal- clearly demonstrating the different paths that can be successful. All found something bigger than themselves to devote themselves to, and through which they gained their own measure of grace. I think Mr. Brooks has produced a thoughtful and thought provoking work of great relevance to today’s society. It is well written, although at times the biographical pieces are not as pointed as I might have felt necessary. However, I did enjoy them and found the stories to be some of the useful “exemplars” that the author feels are necessary. I also thought they were instructive because of the failings of these individuals who did, in most settings, display great character. This is a book that is a fairly easy and enjoyable read, and well worth the effort.

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I think it is a must read for all those individuals who are racing against time to climb up the ladder putting moral values like empathy, humility , relationships at stake and thus leading a life out of balance only to realize towards the end ( which is futile).If absorbed in the right context it may lead to happy families with harmony at the core.For example the books reminds us of our social media addiction where in a family each member is glued to their devices. If only we could take a few minutes out daily and consistently and do a personal interaction imagine the type of harmony it could bring to our lives.

I first read about this book in a review in People Magazine. I then took the Audible version out of the Public Library, and really enjoyed it. As there were several quotes, and items that I wanted to have on hand, I then bought the paperback version through Amazon. It arrived quickly, is very good quality and I am glad I now have the paper version to refer to. A really good, inspirational read by the way.

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Ce livre a été un plaisir à lire, de par sa construction avec différentes histoires et les "leçons" à en retirer à chaque fois, la conclusion est très juste...à lire