Women Don't Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide Hardcover – September 22, 2003

If I could give this book 10 stars, I would! If you've been struggling with any type of feeling that you can't ask, can't do, or just "can't tosay", I highly recommend picking this book up.As a woman who encourages other women to speak up and speak out, I wanted to scream "YES" in almost every page as it reinforced my own thoughts and feelings.Game changer indeed, for all women at all levels. Empower one another to achieve greater things.

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Women Don't Ask offers perspective-shifting, concrete evidence regarding women's advancement in the workplace and the world. The discussion in the early chapters surrounding negotiating your first salary, or rather the price of not negotiating your first salary, led me to purchasing it as a birthday gift for my college senior niece and begging her to read that section alone prior to interviewing. The lessons in this book apply not only to the working world. I've primarily been a stay at home mom for the past 20 years, and I discovered myself responding to examples thinking "I do that" and "Ohhhh, that's why I do that." The message is empowering and taught me I, my family members, friends and coworkers have much to gain by my being much more clear about what I'm asking for in any given situation. Highly recommend.

I read this while I was in the interview process for my first job in a new field. I was super nervous about trying to negotiate my salary since I haven't always been very confident in the past. After reading this book, I confidently asked for a much higher salary then I would have previously and they accepted! If you're going through interviews or just want a confidence boost, read this book.

This book is literally life changing. I know negotiation isn't one of my natural strengths but I didn't realize how systematic the issue was and how much more I could get out of life if I just asked (i didn't even think of this as an option in most cases!). Really shocking statistics in this book as well as advice for maximizing female's natural advantages in negotiation situations!

There isn't anything surprising in here to any woman who has been around the business world for a while. However, the book's real value is that it provides empirical evidence to support Everywoman's anecdotal observations.What I found most useful about this book is evidence cited that women's "tend and befriend," cooperative approach to negotiation results in greater gains in the long run, in part because of women's ability to reframe. It also confirmed my impression that women are more successful in business when they soften their mode of delivery (although not their message).The authors further reframe the scope of "negotiation" to include women's personal, including homemaking, lives, to remind us all that equality should not end at the thresholds to our homes.Ultimately, every negotiator has to find his or her own personal style. This book made me feel just that much better about including lipstick and high heels in my arsenal.

I read this book in almost one sitting. It has compelling factual data and riveting anecdotes. But, unlike Backlash, by Susan Faludi, which was almost totally negative, the authors also look at women's strengths in negotiation, and give some ideas for how to put their ideas into action.It's not a how-to-negotiate book; I've spent the last 23 years practicing corporate law, negotiating sophisticated legal transactions and running an in-house department. This book goes beyond "how to" into "why". Essential reading for any woman!

I just felt that this book only told about the situation, (which I do find is the case in my experience as a women--basically I shut down when it comes to negotiation, and my boyfriend welcomes it, saying that "everything is negotiable". Problem is shown, without any real solutions--basically some people are more assertive than others I guess. Thanks anyway.